The week between Christmas and New Year’s is a very special time. Clients are generally quiet, Christmas is over, and peace prevails in the studio. This year, I’ve been putting everything else before the last of the studio move-in clean-up. First it was fixing up the former house to sell, then, in rapid succession, a new class to teach, two new workbooks to complete, travel, my bother’s death, travel to the funeral, and return home and then a sinus infection and head cold. So, no putting the finishing touches on the studio. This is the week I hope to do that.
And while I’m doing it, I’m also going to consider what my next project is (although I have a pretty good idea), what new classes to offer, and that new coaching package–a three-session coaching package to help people figure out what they want based on who they are. A sort of GPS checkup of your soul.
There is a gift in going slowly and not piling up a lot of work. Yes, the studio is a lot of work. But looking at it, moving deliberately, considering choices, and getting space clear sounds inviting.
There are 360 degrees in a circle and 365 days to a year, so I pretend these days are “extra days” before the New Year comes full circle. Those days are a gift of time for some special thinking and work.
One of the items I’m coming to peace with is the many times I am “invited” to a GoFundMe money raiser. This past week, I was “invited” to three fund raisers. One came when I asked about a friend’s plans, and got the GoFundMe in reply. A strong hint. The other two were people I barely know, each with worthy causes.
I wish I could contribute to everybody. I wish I had those extra $20 or $200 dollars for people who need a vacation, have to pay for surgery, want to make a change in their life, but are stuck financially. I feel guilty when I don’t help.
But here is what I have found: the more I donate, the more requests I get. How to choose? Is one person more worthy than another? Does needing a vacation seem less important than paying bills? After taking a close look at giving out of guilt, I decided not to do that anymore. If I have some money to share, I will. But otherwise, I will not give my budget money out of guilt. I’m not doubting their need, but I am doubting my ability to fix people by funding projects out of guilt.
—Quinn McDonald is at the end and the beginning. Again.