We all make rules for ourselves. They keep us from having to make new decisions over and over again every day. Rules are practical. Until they get in the way. Every now and then, it’s a great idea to see if your rules still work for you. To check in and see if you might have outgrown them.
Because rules we make for ourselves and never change are one way we stall on our way to reaching our dream.
If your dream is still dancing beyond your fingertips, if you have stalled on the way to getting your dream, maybe it’s time to ask yourself if you are procrastinating. If you are a perfectionist, you are probably also a procrastinator.
Procrastination keeps you from reaching your dream. Because you want the dream to be perfect before the new, perfect you seizes that perfect dream. And with a little effort, this will all happen at the perfect time, too.
Psssst. . . that’s never going to happen.
So put some traction in your action and grab that imperfect dream, because, after all, it is your dream and doesn’t have to be perfect. It has to be workable. It has to be beginable.
Stop planning, stop talking to people about planning, and take one step toward your dream. Most of us spend too much time making up plans, planning for what could go wrong and then watching as problems surface and things do go wrong.
Of course they do, when we keep looking for things to go wrong, we’ll find enough to barricade the dream. And once it’s
blocked, we’ll find a million reasons to keep it blocked.
If you live in your head, logic sounds like real life. But until you bring emotion into it, you won’t act. Logic lays out the plan, but emotion fuels the action.
The worst emotion you can bring in is fear. It might be an emotion you know well, but it’s not inspiring. Bring in doing a small thing right. Bring in making small steps. Bring in congratulating yourself over small things. Look back and see how far you’ve come. Toward that beat up, crumpled, beloved dream that you are now clutching to your heart.
—Quinn McDonald is a writer working out the possibilities of a plan.