OK, OK, I heard you. When I review a book, I need to give it away. I started that habit, and now it’s a thing. And not only will I give away the book I’m reviewing today, but if you would prefer to own Start Right Where You Are by Sam Bennett, which I reviewed on November 29, leave your preference in the comments. I’ll give away one book, the one the winner chooses.
Today’s book: Make Peace With Your Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Free You From Your Inner Critic by Mark Coleman.
First, the good news about your brain and your inner critic: neuroplasticity, a topic that’s been much explored in the last few years, helps you change your mind. And your behavior. And quiet your inner critic. This book shows you how.
If you absolutely do not believe in the power of mindfulness meditation and compassion, for yourself and others, this book won’t work for you.
The idea of the book is simple: “If you give negative thoughts attention, then of course they grow in importance. If you stop giving them the time of day, then they have less room to take root and grow.”
Coleman says, “I learned that to navigate life’s inner and outer storms, you need two essential skills: awareness and compassion. They are like wings of a bird, without which flight is impossible.”
As someone who has written two books about the inner critic myself, I love the approach Coleman takes. He understands how the inner critic beats you up through feelings of shame, fraud, and perfectionism. And Coleman shows you how to get some peace in that busy head of yours.
The book is divided into five sections:
- The Critic: The Big Picture
- Understanding Self-Judgment
- How to Work Mindfully With the Critic
- The Power of Love
- Beyond the Critic
The book has 31 chapters, each containing an idea, how to apply it to your life, and then a way to practice the idea until it becomes a habit.
Some tempting chapter titles: It’s About You, Stupid! How the Critic Attacks Your Innate Value; How the Critic Fuels Regret; Understanding the Critic in Your Relationships; Are Your Judgments Really True?; Turning From Self-Hatred to Self-Kindness.
The book isn’t fast-food for your soul. It’s more of a taste-and-savor read. Practice each chapter as you go along, until the practice becomes a habit. Then go on to the next chapter. I read it all at once to review it, but it was too much good information all at once. It’s a good read, too.
Truth in blogging: New World Library sent me the book for free. I like the book enough to keep it. You will be getting a new copy of the book that I purchased.
Giveaway: If you want either Make Peace with Your Mind by Mark Coleman or Start Right Where You Are by Sam Bennett, leave a comment letting me know which book you want. I will be giving away one book. No emails, please. The winner will be chosen from the comments to this blog.
On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, at 7 p.m. Phoenix time, I’ll choose the winner and announce it on the following day’s blog. The book makes a good gift, either for yourself or a friend, so consider that when choosing the book you want.
Book facts: paperback, 238 pages, New World Library.
–-Quinn McDonald is a writer and a coach. She is studying to become a healer through writing.