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January 31, 2017 By Quinn McDonald 15 Comments

Moving Ahead With New Leadership

No secret, I did not vote for our current President. But he is President, and that means that I, too, have to change my view of reality. Some things have not changed: I believe in America. I believe in its citizens. I believe we are much more than our current President thinks we are. I do not share his dark vision of this country as failing or of the world as “a mess.” Yes, there is work to be done. But work is positive. And we are ready.

There have been a number of leaders that I did not vote for, and each time, I’ve settled in to see how our democracy balances out the new and the old.  And yes, I’ve done my share of protesting. That’s part of our valuable freedom.

This election feels different to me.

On this largely professional blog, I steer clear of politics. Yet this post is not about politics. This post is about language, creativity,  and solving problems that involve miscommunication, sadness, confusion, anger, and frustration. Both of those–language and conflicting emotions–is exactly what my work is, and it’s time to talk about the next four years. Because they stretch ahead with a dark shadow.

Here’s what I will not do:

  1. Call the President names. Yes, I stooped to that in anger early in the primaries. But there is power in words, and I will not make fun of his hair, his makeup, or other superficial, physical features. No one is just their external appearance. We are made up of values and beliefs and behavior. There are larger issues at stake than looks. Much larger.
  2. Make fun of his current wife or youngest child. They didn’t ask to be in the spotlight. They are not responsible for his decisions nor are they part of the government.
  3. Over-indulge in news. It’s important to be informed. To think critically. To know history. If you are a news junkie, it’s easy to pile up story after story to fuel your anger. Stop it. (See items #2 and #3 below for reasons.) A friend gathered a group who read papers and watch TV in turn, and summarize the news for the others in the group, so no one has to marinate in horror for hours a day.
  4. Trivialize what is happening. Wait. Be silent. Many of my friends told me to “get over losing,” and “give

    I did not write the list above, but I agree with it.

    him a chance.” I’ve lost a good deal in my life, and getting up, dusting myself off, and moving on is a well-practiced habit. The President has shown who he is. He had a chance. I lost respect when I saw him call Mexicans “rapists” and “criminals.” I gave him a chance and saw him make fun of a disabled journalist and strand green-card holders (legal residents) at airports.  He’s shown his values. They are not mine.

  5. Normalize hate speech, or divisive actions against religion. “Alt-right” sounds like a cool app, when it is really a slipcover for nationalism at best and fascism at worst. It’s easy to finger-paint ugly actions to hide hate and fear. I will not accept those words as “normal” or, worse, “the new normal.” America promises a separation of church and state, and a clear one, in the First Amendment.

Here’s what I will do:

      1. Recognize drama-chaos moves. Not be distracted by the shock event. The 45th President has said, more than once, that he “likes to be unpredictable.” And that is certainly the truth. If I chase after every tweet, every gesture, every insult, I will be likely, as Chuck Wendig writes on his blog Terribleminds (if cursing bothers you, you have been warned), be sorely challenged in “finding a calm state, managing to sleep at night. Eating, breathing, taking some time, drinking some water, trying not to drink the whole . . . liquor cabinet or eat every gallon of ice cream in the surrounding dozen zipcodes.”
      2. Choose carefully a few causes I care about and support those. As a coach and trainer, I know about compassion exhaustion. Fear exhaustion and anger overload works the same way. After a while, it’s easy to shrug and say, “I just can’t do this anymore. I have to get through the day. Someone else will be outraged and do something.” That’s when the real danger starts. When we stop caring.  Yonatan Zunger slices emotions thin as a blade when he says, “. . . when people are already stretched to their absolute limit emotionally, with financial stresses, family stresses, medical stresses, lack of a clear future stresses, then hearing anyone else ask for something — even if that something is as simple as ‘the right to walk down the street without being murdered’ — feels like an added imposition.”
      3. Be kind. When I can’t protest, call up government officials to express my opinion, or write letters to newspapers, I can always be kind. So can you. There is always a smile to share, someone to let in the traffic line ahead of you, someone with fewer groceries to wave ahead of your half-full cart, a compliment to give, a hand to hold. When we refuse to be divided, we stand together. And standing together has power.

—Quinn McDonald is a writer who teaches writing. She is the adult child of immigrants who fled Nazi Germany. She knows the results of “following orders” first hand.

 

 

Filed Under: Blog, Coaching, In My Life, Know yourself, Language and words, Life as Metaphor, Living life awake, Opinion Tagged With: 45, life in America, protest, words

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Comments

  1. Jane Dunnewold says

    February 1, 2017 at 5:29 am

    Great post, Quinn. I hope it’s ok to copy the info in the box and share it. The whole article is worth sharing, but I’d like to start with the clear definitions and will mention I borrowed them from you. People need to think about this stuff rationally. That list is a great start.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      February 1, 2017 at 8:59 am

      I, too, borrowed the list. I couldn’t find anyone to attribute it to. It’s an excellent start.

      Reply
  2. Lynn Rogers says

    February 1, 2017 at 5:42 am

    Thank you Quinn. I think I will copy this to re-read regularly in the coming days.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      February 1, 2017 at 8:59 am

      I’ll be re-reading it too, to keep me steady.

      Reply
      • Joanne says

        February 1, 2017 at 5:36 pm

        As we all will.

        Reply
        • Quinn McDonald says

          February 1, 2017 at 8:04 pm

          Good to hear from you, Joanne.

          Reply
  3. TX Creatrix says

    February 1, 2017 at 7:34 pm

    As usual you are the voice or reason in the wilderness… I did need this today. Voices of reason are few and far between! I too will borrow the box… and publish on my blog.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      February 1, 2017 at 8:05 pm

      I wish I could give it proper credit. It took me a long time to become reasonable. But fear just leads to anger, and that to more anger. I have to have balance.

      Reply
  4. Philip Louis says

    February 1, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    Beautifully said, Quinn. Thanks for a rational TONE as well as voice. It’s hard when we’re fearful, to take measured steps. Living in Mexico , as I do, both exacerbates and levels the news we receive.
    I’d going to link this on my Facebook page? Many should read this.
    Gracias!

    Reply
    • Philip Louis says

      February 1, 2017 at 7:43 pm

      That was supposed to read – I’d like to post to my Facebook page – with your permission.

      Reply
      • Quinn McDonald says

        February 1, 2017 at 8:07 pm

        Yes, Philip. Please.

        Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      February 1, 2017 at 8:06 pm

      You may use it, as long as you give the attribution using my full name and link to the post. My parents immigration papers are from Mexico. It’s a long story, but I have great affection for the country that sheltered my parents and allowed them to come to America.

      Reply
  5. Lynne Davis says

    February 6, 2017 at 7:00 am

    Thanks for putting this political insanity into perspective. I’ve been saying since the election that it’s now “our” job to be extra kind to everyone, especially to strangers and the people we love even if they don’t share our same views. I always enjoy reading your posts Quinn.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      February 9, 2017 at 4:01 pm

      I’ve never felt good being hateful. Revenge has never felt good to me. Kindness is what’s left.

      Reply

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