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November 23, 2016 By Quinn McDonald 4 Comments

Thanksgiving 2016

"It's still raining," © Quinn McDonald, 2016. All rights reserved.

“It’s still raining,” © Quinn McDonald, 2016. All rights reserved.

You’d think I’d exhausted everything there is to say about Thanksgiving. Nope, not quite. It’s been a year unlike others, and who knows with whom you will be sitting down this year. Relatives who have different opinions but great recipes, friends you thought you knew, but who voted differently from you. Not easy.

Maybe you need a bit of help. Oh, look, I’m a life coach so, a bit of perspective.

  1. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to more anger. Yelling, creating a scene, throwing things, or bullying is all fear-based and you will just get anger back. There really isn’t anything else. You create fear, anger will come roaring back at you. You don’t have to say everything you are thinking. Really. Your brain will not explode. Yes, you should confront racism, but even that can be done thoughtfully and carefully. When you raise your voice, you are creating the mood for more and louder yelling.
  2. Be grateful. For the weather. For not having to eat brussel sprouts. For the brussel sprouts you love so much. There is always something to be grateful for. Look harder. Yes, there, in the corner, that tiny bit of gratitude. Treat it as a rare and wonderful gift. Take care of it. Be kind to it. Gratitude, when recognized, grows more of itself. Do that for yourself. Grow some gratitude.
  3. Be very specific about your happiness or thankfulness. Not just “for family and friends,” but “for Jaime’s sense of humor that always makes me feel relief.” When you are specific about joy and gratitude, you begin to recognize more of the same. Not bad. Building your own happiness and gratitude is always a do-it-yourself success project.
  4.  Still angry? Depressed? Go out for a walk. Nature is a wonderful healer. Bundle up if its cold, take an umbrella if it’s raining, but get outside. Life is bigger outside. There are details that make life beautiful. Enjoy them.
  5. Use self-discipline in equal measure to self-care. I value the ability to hold it together in tough circumstances. I learned that at my mother’s controlled knee and honed it to a fine edge under the nuns’ stern and rigorous upbringing.  Don’t let yourself fall apart. That’s a choice. Don’t let others walk all over you. That, too, is a choice. Balance is hard. Wish others well in your mind and heart. Be generous with love and understanding. You’ll feel better, I promise. And there is always the turkey sandwich to look forward to!

–Quinn McDonald is a writer and a believer in gratitude. She’s been putting her self-discipline to the test, too.

Filed Under: Blog, In My Life, Know yourself Tagged With: anger, emotions, gratitude, politics, Thanksgiving

About Quinn McDonald

Trainer, writer, coach for anyone who wants to live a self-aware, creative life.

Comments

  1. Bo says

    November 24, 2016 at 9:29 am

    Wishing you well, Quinn. In mind and heart. May the coming year be one of gift and gratitude – for all of us.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      November 24, 2016 at 10:56 am

      Good to see you again, Bo. Gratitude is a great gift in itself. Not always easy, but always worth the effort!

      Reply
  2. TX Creatrix says

    November 24, 2016 at 10:30 am

    “Thanx” Quinn for the ideas… I think we will all need them this year.
    Flew to my sister’s last weekend and it was very civil, as politics was not even mentioned! That was a relief!
    But I did have an incident on the plane with a woman who I felt was baiting me, expecting my reaction and I took the high road and walked away without my usual caustic comment. It was hard but I felt relief and afterward it made me happy.

    Reply
    • Quinn McDonald says

      November 24, 2016 at 10:57 am

      Airplanes are places where people feel free to bait others. At least in the last few months, that’s been my experience. (As you know from one of my blogs.) I’m proud that you handled it well. I really don’t want to get into angry discussions in an enclosed space, so I generally power down the rhetoric. Love having you here!

      Reply

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